I like BDSM and some kinks quite a lot. To me, it is very liberating, even spiritual, plus just plain fun. There are many aspects I enjoy, especially power exchange; in particular, Daddy Dom, though Pimp, Master, and similar roles are high on the list too.
However, I differentiate between fantasy and roleplay. I value concepts such as Safe, Sane, and Consensual, defining Consensual as FRIES: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific.
Even playing serious roleplaying games such consensual-nonconsent are still only that: only games that require lots of communication, negotiation, informed consent, safewords, and a community that provides information and oversight.
See Games People Play by Eric Berne for a primer on transactional analysis
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0345410033/
I'm currently reading Screw the Thorns, Send Me the Roses by Philip Miller and Molly Devon
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0964596008
They talk a lot about how the negotiation and limits are dictated by bottom, who voluntarily submits in exchange for what is agreed upon. It is the bottom's "consent to be governed," just as much as it is the top's consent to govern. This is an ongoing process.
Now, if someone is an abusive relationship, or if someone violates boundaries by being violent in any way toward me or others I care about, I will not ask the violator's consent to govern! Nope, I will not hesitate to stop them or, failing that, terminate them.
A 2D map projects a representation of a 3D globe only by distorting distance, direction, shape, and area. Some projections minimize one or more distortions at the cost of forfeiting other distortions.
In the same way, complex and abstract theoretical physics and spiritual concepts, as they are related, must be simplified to comprehend at the finite material plane of the living organism consciousness computing level we call brain-mind. Distortions occur in modeling.
Each instance of expanding dimensions is utterly incomprehensible to consciousness in the preceding dimension, unless it is able to think "outside the box" so-to-speak; that is, escape from the confines of what the imagination has offered as a boundary and structure for the consciousness-reality to grow within.
It is my understanding that at least some dimensions above the sixth are actually smaller states, such as the rough surface of silk that is not apparent at our scale, only under a microscope; or superimposed states, such as so-called negative mass that rises above the space-time plane (and even escapes it); or at mega-colossal scales, when you become aware that the universe is in fact a fractal representation of a conscious being asleep in a dream in a "world above"; or higher states yet still above that; the Great Wheel, the Cosmic Ferris Wheel containing many smaller ferris wheels.
Where was I? Oh yes, space-time.
So the third-fourth dimensions are often commonly thought of as like a movie reel, each moment on time as like one frame. Remembering the distortions of projections that must be made, it is like that, except the movie reel is a blanket that stretches out in every direction. Every moment or frame is like a box on graph paper that becomes lined with yet another layer of coordinates when you zoom in, or fade as you zoom out.
The "blanket" of space-time is essentially flat at our scale, is dancing mad at the string scale, and somewhere in between it is like the contours of the planet: hills and mountain peaks, sinkholes and trenches.
There are many possibilities of everywhere occurrence along this blanket of space-time, possibly infinite, or at least within the bounds of probability that can be stretched. The you that is conscious of being you (your spotlight you or ego-self) wanders (usually) in more or less one general direction along this blanket of possibilities like a Plinko puck from The Price Is Right, singing mad at the quantum level, peaks and sinkholes at usually rarely seen or barely experienced levels.
And since the fabric of the multiverse is made of possibilities, possibilities created themselves; if they can and it works, they will. They are dark worlds and exotic worlds where consciousness does not incarnate in the same way we would call life in this light-dominated matter universe. But consciousness is consciousness, different as we are in stages of development, paths of evolution, and cosmic medium strata.
So time travel can does exist, and there is no paradox. You do not cease to exist of you kill your grandfather, you merely--to borrow the simplified map once again--eliminate one frame of the movie reel; or rather, one tiny speck out of an endless ocean.
I had a dream I had 9 trillion dollars to spend. I could spend it on myself or give it away with or without "strings attached".
I decided to give it all away, but first I cut down all of those who had power and abused it; all those who abused and/or exploited those who were vulnerable; and all those who value deception and/or devalue truth. Of course everyone makes mistakes, but I am referring to those who are intentional and serial, as a way of being. (I am also not referring to safe, sane, consensual, well-communicated, and negotiated adult games with safewords, otherwise known as BDSM).
After I cut the unworthy down, I gave everything they had away, and my fortune away as well:
20% Africans and African-Americas slave descendants
10% United Indian Subcontinent (including Bangladesh, Bhutan, India, Maldives, Nepal, Pakistan, and Sri Lanka) for sustainable development and the reunification of pre-partition India
10% Korea (DPRK and ROK) for their peaceful reunification
5% Palestinians for their independence and dissolution of the Israeli state
25% Everyone equally nominally (again to those listed above who already received), so that the poor benefit more by ratio of what they previously had
It would be a completely anonymous gift. There would be no "strings" or contingencies for the gift, but if the beneficiaries were curious, my book* would be available for free to read. It is not required reading. Future publications would undoubtedly improve with revisions. Critics would likely have valid critiques, and other authors would likely have even better ideas in their books.
* (An edited compilation of writings from my blogs, Facebook and Fetlife posts, and Twitter tweets; notes to myself and others via text, email, and other means; my Youtube playlists; my personal book library and Amazon wishlists; discussions I have had; and even references to people and material I wish to amplify.)
These are some of my role models and influences. I admire at least some aspect of their lives or find them fascinating. If I had a million lives, I would study theirs. No one is perfect, but they exemplify qualities I hope to emulate.
This list is not exhaustive, as many have been omitted (particularly fictional authors). There are also undoubtedly many more I would have included but have not due to ignorance. They are not necessarily listed by priority, and will undoubtedly be updated.
