This is probably the most controversial thing I will ever share. Buckle up, Buttercup.
I believe it is possible for pedophilia and incest to be done with love.
I said possible.
I will stop here before continuing and disclose that I have never engaged in either pedophilia or incest. For one reason, our culture views both as wrong and illegal, and the penalties are extreme.
There are many more wrong ways than right ways to engage in pedophilia and incest. The wrong ways can cause serious emotional damage. But if done rightly, I believe they have the potential to expand a human's ability to love on a spiritual level that we have not yet experienced in the Earth-material plane.
Follow my train of thought.
The idea is that pleasure is natural and good, and one way love is expressed is through pleasure. The problem is that our culture has corrupted the concept of pleasure so that love is often stripped away from pleasure. You can see this in the hyper-sexualized advertising or media, and in the type of pornography that seems to lack any human connection or care for the other actors. (This differs from what I consider to be healthy pornography where there is a human connection and care for the actors; even aggressive, primal sex can have these qualities.) Therefore, sensuality is actually often a harmful act in our society. But this is an indictment upon our culture and how we pursue pleasure, and not upon pleasure itself.
It is possible to have a society that embraces pedophilia and incest as a healthy love-bonding experience, but the transition could carry some risk. The risk, if compensated for with protective measures, will be far outweighed by the potential rewards to human love expression.
When I say love-bonding experience, I am referring to sensual touch and sensual kisses between parent and child and between siblings. Full penetration should be avoided, at least until natural (not prematurely induced by, say, hormonally enhanced milk) human sexual maturity.
Regarding risk, I will use the example of BDSM. Children are not mature enough to play BDSM games, but there are some analogies to explore. BDSM carries risks, just like pedophilia and incest. The BDSM risks are generally greater than the risks of genuinely loving through pedophilia and incest, so greater measures are taken. Those BDSM protective measures include community belonging, oversight by elders, and training.
BDSM is just a game, though an often seriously played game. In either case, riskier activities such as BDSM should be dissuaded until one is mature enough, though sheltering children from these more mature games through ignorance is not the way. And what constitutes as "mature enough" is a matter of differing opinion. You want to balance freedom with safety.
BDSM is for both or all parties, whereas pedophilia in particular should be focused on giving and caring for the needs of the younger. The BDSM dominant provides for the vulnerable submissive, as the caregiver provides for the vulnerable child.
In some ways, it is no different than a mother breastfeeding, a parent wiping a child during diaper changes, or cuddling a child to sooth and reassure them. Pedophilia and incest only goes one step further by also pleasuring the child to make them feel good.
As briefly mentioned previously, this has the added benefit of securing a love bond with your child. It is like the imprinting that many fowl have towards the first animal they see. Imagine the additional mutual trust and care one would have throughout life.
Consider, too, that though this absolutely must be child-focused and selfless, the desires are indeed embedded in the subconscious code, as Freud discovered in his psychoanalysis of the Oedipus Complex, Electra Complex, and Madonna-Whore Complex. It is part of our operating system, our code, but it is buried under layers of taboo and corrupted sensuality. One need to only peruse most pornhub or other sites to see that teen and family categories are popular.
One of my biggest concerns with pedophilia and incest are the emotional shock if children are not used to it or think it is wrong. So society almost has change all at once, or nearly so, or society has to change very slowly and incrementally. The first way is like peeling a bandaid off fast so that the adhesive doesn’t pull at the skin hair slowly and painfully. The second way is barely noticeable. Either way, the point is to first do no harm, then do good, then curb unnecessary harm.
The other concern is a misunderstanding about the intent. I keep harping upon this point because it is key. It is not about adults getting sexually gratified, though they no doubt will. The point, the intent, which must always be first and foremost in the mind guiding all actions in this sphere, is the nurturing and development of people more vulnerable than yourself. You want them to grow better than yourself, and this is a way to draw close: vulnerability to vulnerability, creating trust and a positive bond.
That is the point. It is sensual and sexual, but it is not sexual-IZED.
We need high tension sexual fantasies, things we think about in the dark and dare to do in the light, where there is some risk, but not too much. Where the harm cannot be too great from either the activity or the enforcers. Pedophilia and incest should not be in this category. Pedophilia and incest should be nurturing and giving so that there is no sexual tension.
Sexual tension can be found in things like BDSM when individuals are mature, however "maturity" is defined. They should belong to an informed and functioning BDSM community that values and teaches principles such as FRIES (consent is Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific), SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual), RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), PRICK (Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink), YKINMKBYKIOK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is OK), and, if desired, GGG (Good, Game, and Giving), and similar ideas.
The social penalties for pedophilia and incest are too high right now for anyone to risk, at least unless or until society changes. That cannot happen until people are mature enough to conduct themselves in selfless love and a pure heart. If or when that happens, I can see pedophilia and incest as a love-bonding and nurturing experience. It would be legal, moral, ethical, normal, pleasurable, comforting, and nurturing. The exaggerated genetic defect risk is mitigated via ethical non-monogamy. There would be no shame and nothing to hide. Pleasuring your child sensually would be no more shameful as pleasuring your child with a compliment or their favorite meal or a trip to their favorite playground.
Until such a time that may never come, there are simulated activities that can be satisfying, such as BDSM age play, DDLG (Daddy Dom Little Girl), MDLB (Mommy Domme Little Boy), and every other combination.
My Youtube playlist: Questioning Incest: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLy1Yl-f8BHjaOfcom3k1mrALwmbq4V_T4
